Sometimes I wish I could be a fairy god-mother and sprinkle pixie dust on all of my clients so that they can achieve their goals and get out from behind their obstacles. What I do offer my clients is an uncanny ability diagnose the nature of the obstacles that are obstructing their happiness, and insight into behavior that they could alter if they choose. The fact is that change is difficult, and although self-awareness is the key to healing, most of us are frightened of knowing. That might seem silly, but I have personally had that experience, as have thousands of people that I have treated.  

           The bad news is that Willpower is not enough. The good news is that Motivation, Commitment, and courage is all that you need. That's all?

    Let me tell you a personal anecdote. I am an Endomorph. My type, The Endomorph, generally fights the battle of the bulge, loves to eat, and often suffers from an aversion to physical activity. Were I to have had the good luck to have been born an Ectomorph: a person with a thin body, I would enjoy having my cake, eating it and being skinny too. Alternatively, I wouldn't have minded being born a Mesmorph: a person with muscles and an athletic orientation.

     To be healthy, Endomorphs like me need to stay motivated and committed to eat well and move their body on a regular basis. Just today I walked two and a half miles and had a wonderful breakfast of 1 slice of dry wholewheat toast, 2 eggwhites as an omelet, sliced tomatoes and lettuce, and a cup of Orange Zinger Tea. Later in the day I had a salad and a cup of chicken broth. I feel motivated today to be good to myself. Why? Because I believe that building muscles, and losing a little weight will decrease my back pain. Why? Because I have come to that conclusion based on trying everything else to help the chronicity of my back pain.

     However, willpower is not enough. You cannot use your power to will yourself to do something. You have to just put one foot in front of the other and do it. I met a woman in my elevator building the other day who had just returned from a run. She was definitely a mesomorph. We spoke a little and she said, "I'm thrilled that I'm DONE with my exercise. I hate doing it, but I love to be done with it." How do you motivate yourself? I asked her. "I give myself no choice. It's just somehting I do every day like brushing my teeth, washing my face, going to sleep at night. It's what I do." Great advice, I thought.

     Tomorrow is my third day of walking for an hour. I've scheduled it as a 'date' with a good friend. I'm looking forward to it. I'm on a roll.

All the best,

Dr. Rita